Summary
A former police officer and hostage negotiator, Nicky Perfect, shared lessons from her career that can help in parenting. She describes three strategies: offering limited choices, pausing before reacting, and understanding others' perspectives.
Key Facts
- Nicky Perfect served as a Metropolitan Police officer for over 30 years, including 10 years as a hostage negotiator.
- She worked in the New Scotland Yard Hostage and Crisis Negotiation Unit.
- Perfect suggests offering a "no choice choice" to give children a sense of control.
- She recommends waiting 90 seconds before responding to emotionally charged situations.
- Understanding the child's perspective can help manage situations like bedtime tantrums.
- Perfect shared her insights on the BBC's Parenting Download podcast.
- The techniques aim to maintain calm and control in parenting, drawing from her negotiation skills.
